My Family is Complete

Newborn baby feet

It starts as soon as you enter a relationship, as soon as you let the world know you are serious, that damn question! The question that everyone is dying to know the answer to! I mean I’m guilty, I’ll definitely hold my hands up as I do it too. Doesn’t make it any less annoying, I don’t know anyone that wants to be constantly questioned. You guys know what question I’m talking about don’t you…right?

When are you having a baby then? When are you starting a family?

I’ve been blessed with two amazing little ladies, granted I would have loved a son as well I’ve never hidden that fact. In fact when I was pregnant with my first I wanted a boy sooooo badly, like so badly. Thinking about it now I was actually a little disappointed to be having a girl at first, I got over that very quickly and became super excited to be having her.

It was not even days after having her, in fact I think I probably got asked whilst I was still pregnant with my first, it hard to gauge when you’re going to have another baby though…My Family is Complete - Two kids is enough for us

When’s the next one? When are you having baby number two?

I remember whilst I was pregnant with my first, I wanted 5 kids. Yep 5! I had a really easy and straight forward pregnancy and always said I was happy to do it all again 4 more times. This quickly changed when my daughter was born. She was so perfect and made me feel so complete; I actually didn’t feel like I needed anymore children. So we decided that would have one more, to create our cute little family of 4. That way our first would have a companion, now in hindsight. If at the time of having our first, we’d had know this was our plan I think I would have had them really close together.

Being our only children, I feel like it would have been perfect for them to be really close in age. It may have made things harder at the time for us, but in the long run things would have been easier. Instead we waited 3 and half years to have the next one, now this still isn’t a massive gap and as the years go on it will get smaller and smaller.

They say the second is always more of a handful than the first; I’m going to say she was sent to make sure we didn’t have any more children haha! Now my second pregnancy was still pretty straight forward and my labour was amazing. It was the first year that I struggled with, the sleep deprivation and the constant feeding.

You can read about my breastfeeding experience here.

Mother and daughters

My Family is Complete – Two kids is enough for us!

It was somewhere in those 3 years before I got pregnant with my second, we made the decision that would only be having one more.  We had many reasons for this, having children puts many restraints and restrictions on a relationship and we basically wanted to keep these to a minimum. Sticking with two means we can really enjoy them, and hopefully be able to treat them to lots of holidays, restaurants and days out as they are growing up without worrying too much about money.

I feel so blessed with my family, I have an amazing partner and two perfect little girls and for that I am forever thankful. I wouldn’t change it for the world and I don’t think I will ever change my mind, I am 99.9% sure that we will not be having another baby.

There a certain stages that I am sad to never experience again, like the joy of a positive pregnancy test. Those little flutter’s of the baby moving in your stomach or the cuddles from a newborn; but I have yet to experience so much more with my girls. Different levels of joy and pleasure that I have never felt, and for that I am extremely excited. My girls are now 5 and 17 months, I love watching them grow, they have already formed such a close bond.

So it doesn’t matter how many times someone says to me, but what if you have your boy? I will not be having another child, and I know they never say never…but at this point in my life I feel like I can say never…

24 Comments on “My Family is Complete”

  1. It’s such a big and I think hard decision to make – I often wander how do I know if my family is complete? I guess as long as everyone’s happy, that’s the main thing 🙂

  2. Its nice that you’re happy with how your family unit is now, I know so many people who wanted loads of kids but stuck with 1 or 2. My friend has two boys and would have loved a little girl but she’s happy with just 2 x

  3. Awww, I get your reasons totally. I have 5, aged 12, 8, 4, 2 & 11 months. I only ever wanted 4 children… Our fifth was our bonus baby. If I had known how hard it would be having 3 under 4 I probably would have done all I could to avoid it. Haha! I love my children though and I wouldn’t change them in the grand scheme of things.

  4. I wanted 5, too! I have one and I honestly feel so complete with him – I never thought I’d be so lucky! Who knows what the future holds, but right now, I’m happy with sticking right here. x

  5. It’s wonderful when you feel your family is complete. I was adamant I wasn’t going to have any more after my first, but seven and nine years later I had another two. He’s had the snip now, so we’re definitely finished!

  6. We have one child and I’m still constantly hearing “when are you having another” despite me being 40 now and repeatedly saying I’m done. I do wish people would mind their own business. You know your own mind and as long as you’re happy they should accept it x

  7. I’m happy with my two boys. Who knows if I’d have been equally happy with more or less children. I think its important to enjoy what we do have. Glad you are happy with your family unit too.

  8. We’ve stopped at two girls but it doesn’t stop people asking me constantly if we are having any more! I always wanted just 2 but Husband wanted a football team. He soon changed his mind once the kids became a reality! Lol!

  9. oh I do understand the frustration at being asked when the next one will be. our first son was a surprise, a welcome one, but not planned. the second, we def struggled to get him and I was so happy when we had the scan that all was ok, and I said I would stop at two. except I gave birth to my 2nd son, and I instantly knew I wanted one more. I was so sad that that my have been the last time at giving birth and being pregnant, I knew I had to go for baby number 3 🙂 but this time, that’s it, no more! we would need a bigger car 😉 I’m so glad you have your complete little family, there is nothing more special. x

  10. I often think about this. My 2nd is now 13 weeks old and my first is 2 years old. I know for sure I want more babies but I also know I dont want to be pregnant with a toddler again 🙈🙈 Every person is different and I am happy for you that you have found a family dynamic you are happy with 💙

  11. As you said never say never but sounds like your happy as can be and that’s wonderful to hear. All I get asked is lol I have one more to see if I have a girl x

  12. Great and relatable post. I agree the second child gives you the test of life. My second is a nightmare lol but similar to you I have two boys, I did want a girl but I am happy and content with two. They have an amazing relationship and bond and thats what matters

  13. I do find it quite empowering now to know I am done at baby making but like you say , it’s sometimes tricky to think you’ll never have those newbornsnuggles again

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  15. I’m glad you brought this up. In the recovery room after I had my daughter, the nurses asked me when I was having another. I thought, are you kidding? This one’s only 8 hours old! I agree, though, I think when you know your family’s complete, you know.

  16. I’m not sure I ever knew how many children I wanted. We had a big gap in between our two – 6 years and I had intended to have another straight after number 2 but it just never happened – she broke me!! I’m happy enough with 2 – they’re exhausting!

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